Wallpaper

We got this book called "I am the Wallpaper" for my fiance's sister. I think it is making things worse for her. She doesn't seem to understand that being in a new school is hard enough without being so obsessed with Jesus and God. Not that I don't have religious beliefs of some sort, but I don't force my beliefs on others in attempts to make common ground between myself and others. I think that that is what she is doing though and I can't help but feel sorry for her as well as feel that she brings it on herself.

I blame the baptist girl that she was hanging out with before the move. Moreso I blame the mother of that girl for constantly writing her e-mails and telling her that everything will be fine if she just turns to God and lets him take care of her life for her. I don't believe that. I believe that we never get more than we can handle and that this is a test for her. I think she is failing at this test and I feel sorry for her. I am pissed at the mother. I feel helpless.

I really want to know what to do to help her, so we gave her a book about coping with not being the center of attention, and dealing with tragedy. I thought it would help her, but now it has turned her into the scapegoat of her own life. She feels that she is the wallpaper, unnoticed, but still important to people who don't understand her. I just wish I knew how to deal with a pre-teen.